Posted by fallsfall on February 11, 2005, at 17:34:36
In reply to Re: Resentment, posted by sunny10 on February 11, 2005, at 12:20:56
Right now, my ex and I live 3 houses apart on the same street. If I didn't pay him "child support" he couldn't afford to stay there, and might well move 1 1/2 hours away to his parents' house that he inherited when they died a year ago. I want him to stay nearby so that my daughter has both parents nearby. But, as I explain this it does even get a little weirder - I pay him child support, but she lives with me. I don't want to get into the situation where I'll pay him child support if she is living with him, but not if she is living with me - I don't want him to have more incentive to try to "lure" her away from me. I don't want money to determine where she decides to go (she is 16, and basically has permission to "live" at either or both houses).
We don't have any legal separation or divorce, so he and I have made an agreement between us on how we will handle this. He says that I don't have to pay him, and that whatever I decide to pay him is OK. But he also whines about not having any money.
Gee, do you think I feel guilty for "breaking up the marriage"?
But there are other things in my life where the resentment occurs also, that was just one example. But maybe some of the things I do are more what *I* think is necessary, rather than what other people "require" of me...
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