Posted by daisym on January 26, 2005, at 1:03:02
In reply to Re: Whose responsibility is it?, posted by mair on January 25, 2005, at 21:56:12
>>>>Isn't this where your therapist would jump in and say that it's his job to take care of you and not yours to take care of him. I don't think it's up to you to spare him too many sad sessions.
Yup, that is exactly what he would say. I said today I just needed to pull myself together. He said, "no", what I needed to do was exactly what I was doing. I needed to keep telling him how I was feeling and how hard it all is, he wanted to hear it, he wanted me to dump all my sh** out right on his carpet...and he said this AFTER the tantrum. I always feel bad when I say "You have no idea" or something in this area. I know he understands how painful this is, I feel his sadness for me. But it just pops out sometimes.
When did you start believing that your therapist thought you were worth the trouble? Just before I left today, I said very quietly, "Please don't get tired of me..." and he shook his head and said, "never." I sooo needed to hear this. Now I need to believe it.
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