Posted by Dinah on January 24, 2005, at 23:57:17
In reply to Whose responsibility is it?, posted by Daisym on January 24, 2005, at 22:59:59
I've probably told you where my therapist stands. He's totally in the camp that it's my therapy, he tells me to call if I need to, he's proven he means it, and it's up to me.
When he not only came close to insisting the other day on seeing me both Saturday and Monday it was a huge anomaly for him. He even called back and suggested that he may be giving me too much freedom to decide whether to come in.
But he's already back to normal. It's up to me how often I come in. It's up to me to call him. Our closing ritual is that he says to me "Call me if you need to." When I'm clearly feeling well, he nearly forgets and I wait with a smile till he says it. Or he says it and I give him an "I won't need to" grin. When I'm clearly feeling not well, he might add "I really mean it." But that's it.
I wish he were more like your therapist. It would feel good to feel so cared for. But he feels really strongly about the responsibility thing. Even when I was absolutely frozen today, unable to decide when I next needed to come in, he waited patiently till I babbled something.
That's how I *feel* about it. I'm pretty sure what I'd *do* about it. I'd let him take as much responsibility as he wanted, and let myself feel as cared for as I could. I'm not sure what I *think* about it.
poster:Dinah
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