Posted by Daisym on December 31, 2004, at 17:37:15
In reply to Re: My first double session day » daisym, posted by fallsfall on December 31, 2004, at 10:14:16
Yes, it worked. It probably would have been OK if I hadn't watched that movie too. Guilt I can handle. Complete melt downs I can't. And you are also right that I don't need to take care of him or make it better for him.
On the phone today I said I wanted to end this conversation by saying, "don't worry, I'll be OK" or something cheerful but I just didn't have it in me. He said that was fine, he could take care of himself. He suggested we not say good-bye but instead he said -"OK. I'm here. Call me later or over the weekend if you need me. I'm around." It was easier that way to hang up. Because he says "OK" in a way that conveys: "I understand, it's OK and we have to stop" all in one very gentle word. So all I have to say is "OK" back. That I could make myself do.
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