Posted by Shortelise on December 31, 2004, at 12:26:53
In reply to My first double session day, posted by daisym on December 31, 2004, at 2:46:02
Daisy,
To me it sounds like you are not a bad client, sooner your T is a good T. It's his job to be there for you, to feel out what you are going through and try to help. He did that, didn't he?
And what is a bad client, anyway? We are all supposed to move through various stages, and one of them is dependance.
I felt so badly because I was awfully nasty with my T for a long time. After I'd come out of that phase, maybe a year later, he said something that made it clear that he didn't hold it against me, that it had been an acceptable part of the proces. I started to cry, and told him what a relief it was to hear that.
On the one hand, I want to care about him, be sensitive to him, and make our relationship pleasant for him. On the other hand, I want what I need, I want to get through the process, get from him everything he has to give me. That's his job. All those people helping skills.You are brave Daisy. Looking into the abyss of memory is so frightening.
Hugs to you.
ShortE
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