Posted by Dinah on November 28, 2004, at 9:42:52
In reply to Re: The Dance » Dinah, posted by Toph on November 27, 2004, at 7:48:53
For a long time, ours was the dance of intimacy/attachment/dependency I think. My therapist admitted to having problems with dependent women. I was a totally independent person who was struggling hard against my feelings of attachment and dependence on him. And I was also the needy little girl who needed to attach. It was quite an intricate dance, with a fair amount of anger thrown in.
I think lately the dance has changed quite a bit. We're like two old married people who know each other so well that we take shortcuts with interaction. It's comfortable. Pleasantly unexciting. So maybe that dance has ended.
If there's any conflict in our relationship right now it's over expectations. He gets angry that I don't do or think or feel what seems perfectly logical to him. And maybe a bit too much honesty that comes from the fact that he feels comfortable with me.
Hmmm... Maybe the same dance but on the other side. The dance of too much intimacy?
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