Posted by Aphrodite on November 6, 2004, at 8:33:03
In reply to Re: Meaningless Musing on my Therapist, posted by Miss Honeychurch on November 5, 2004, at 9:28:55
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> It's the whole rejection thing. Of course I do not expect him to say he loves me back. I know he can't love me. I am one of 20 or so clients and one of hundreds he has seen throughout his career.Miss HC, I am so touched by your dilemma. I just wanted to share a thought on your comment above to Mandinka. I am a teacher, and I have to tell you, even though I have had many, many students (they are college freshmen, btw) I care about them all. The ones who stand out in my mind are the ones who made some kind of proclamation that I was important to them, that I changed them or touched them in some way. I still receive Christmas card from one student 7 years later. I remember everything about her! So, I think the volume doesn't stop people from caring.
However, I too have deep, caring feelings for my T that I am inhibited to express. I think the time will come, and I think he can feel how important he is to me. Still, your need to express your feelings seems very urgent from your post. I think you should try again first be expressing all of your reservations and fears before you do.
Another thought I've had by reading this board is that there seems to be a huge difference between CBTers and psychodynamic therapists in dealing with these sorts of matters. Maybe he is just trying to follow some method? I don't know.
Let us know how things go.
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