Posted by LittleGirlLost on October 22, 2004, at 9:00:56
In reply to Re: Want to ask for a hug » LittleGirlLost, posted by Bent on October 21, 2004, at 12:18:48
> Don’t apologize for going on – I am glad to know others have similar feelings! The more I think about it, I think I might ask her what her stand is in general with this type of contact. .... I think I am gonna try to bring it up next week…maybe. :)
Yes I feel the same way about knowing others can relate to how I'm feeling.
That's wonderful that you will try to bring it up next week!! Like you said, just find out what her stance is on the topic since it really is a personal issue/preference. I'm glad you do have a part of you that understands that if she does say no, it would not be a personal rejection. I unfortunately would feel differently. I think you are very brave in bringing this up to her. Maybe I can learn from you. :)
> If you don’t mind my asking, did you have good experience with the T you had for 9 years? I feel that I am slowing moving in the direction of termination with my T and it’s really scaring me. I just don’t want to be without her but we have really come very far in the two years we’ve worked together. I just don’t know how to break this attachment.I don't know how to describe the relationship with the T I had for 9 years. It did not end by my choice; she terminated me abruptly. Looking back, there were many unprofessional things, and it was not a healthy relationship for me, but at the time I couldn't see it. My friends believed that I was filling a void in her life. My new T is very very different; and I'm actually noticing progress. As for you, if you feel you are coming to the end, discuss it with her. Termination should be a process and if you feel you will be ready in the next few months, start working on it now. I know it's hard to think of not having them in our lives, but maybe you can ask if you can keep in touch; at least for a while.
Good luck to you!
LGL
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