Posted by Bent on October 20, 2004, at 14:56:34
I have been seeing my T for over 2 years now and she’s never physically touched me…maybe a handshake on the first day. We have never talked about it either so I don’t know what her *policy* is on a hug. This comes at a time when I am for once feeling secure in my relationship with her. There is still tons of transference but for the first time I am feeling safe, like she isn’t going to abandon me as we have talked about so many times. She knows I have *mother issues* that I have transferred on to her, and she knows that I tend to stiffen and be uncomfortable when my mom hugs me (not very often and never initiated by me). Maybe for these reasons she’d say no? Maybe she would think a hug would mean too much to me? Maybe it would? What if I ask and she says no? I think I’d feel so hurt and rejected. That fear that might keep me from asking.
poster:Bent
thread:405201
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