Posted by Dinah on September 21, 2004, at 21:56:09
In reply to I wonder if she made it worse, posted by mair on September 21, 2004, at 17:45:27
Awww, Mair. I'm sorry. :(
Money isn't enough to simplify anyone's life in the face of kids losing their mom, and the horror and guilt that a sudden death brings. But I know you know that. Money's nice, but in the end, it's just money. The thought can be a seductive escape fantasy though, can't it?
Sounds like she's being way more problem solving than most therapists are usually. If that's really bothering you (and I can see the good and bad sides of it), you can always tell her that she's pushing too hard. My therapist seldom does that, but I do know that it makes me feel worse when people urge me to do something I know is really good, but I'm just not ready to do it.
There's no reason to be mortified. Sometimes there are pretty good reasons to do nothing, and they aren't always given proper weight. Whenever I find myself stuck on doing something, I try to give proper respect and weight to the reasons I'm not doing it, just as I do to the reasons I think I should do it. Sometimes it's illuminating.
Don't forget to take deep breaths, and do whatever you do to relax. (Baths for me.) And if you need to vent, you know where to find me.
Dinah
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