Posted by DaisyM on September 21, 2004, at 19:34:40
In reply to I wonder if she made it worse, posted by mair on September 21, 2004, at 17:45:27
I feel so bad for you. I think I understand how painful a work situation can be. I am a fairly straight forward person with pretty good diplomacy skills. But there is one woman at my office who makes my life hell. I can't stand up to her and she puts me down both privately and publicly. Plus, she never does much work her self and everyone complains about her. The kicker? I'm her boss.
Sometimes situations we "should" be able to deal with are very hard for very private reasons, or even unconscience ones. We've worked on my issues with this woman in therapy on and off for more than 6 months. She reminds me of my mother is so many ways, so I now know that is part of it. I haven't figured out the rest. I work hard to avoid her. So I think your therapist is probably doing what mine does when he sees how down I get about the situation. He encourages problem solving and he is very supportive. Once he even offered to call the front desk and make up some story so she would have to leave the office and leave me alone.
Don't push yourself to do what you are uncomfortable doing. Your husband probably would like to help you, but you know best.
And hang in there for those kids. No job is worth more than their mother. Really.
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