Posted by Aphrodite on September 20, 2004, at 22:21:28
In reply to Severed attachment, posted by DaisyM on September 20, 2004, at 20:21:29
(((Daisy)))
I have no greater words of wisdom than the ones you gave me a few weeks ago when I cut my T off to see where I stood. I'm quoting you:
"You know I've been where you are so this might sound harsh but I believe it to be true. There is a part of you that is "testing" your therapist to see if you are important enough for him to "chase" you and insist that you keep going to therapy. Somewhere in there, you've been so damaged by people who were suppose to take care of you that running when they get close is an ingrained response. It is the same struggle that I have over and over..."tell me again that I NEED TO BE HERE" because it seems selfish. Plus, if there is this big need to tell something, and anxiety too, this may be masking your fear. Another way of keeping your defenses up.
You aren't a quitter. Take pride in that. It takes more guts and courage to go back in there and start again. You don't even have to apologize, just show up and go forward. "
You would have a lot of compassion for me or anyone else on the board in your shoes. You would encourage me to call him and go back. You would remind me how important I am to my T and even if you don't know it, little Daisy knows she is more than just another client.
Please call him. He will make both parts of you feel better -- he always does.
poster:Aphrodite
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