Posted by Pfinstegg on September 20, 2004, at 12:20:28
In reply to Re: Daisy and Aphrodite » Pfinstegg, posted by Aphrodite on September 20, 2004, at 11:50:43
As it happened, this was the main topic of my session today! I am struggling with exactly the same things you are- no lost time, and nothing unusual apparent to onlookers- just an *infant*or very young child up to about 3, and a *girl* from about 5 to 11, The adolescent and adult are pretty much the same. The part that has a VERY difficult time trusting or feeling any attachment is the *girl*. She was the one who was abused, physically and sexually. My analyst has such an encouraging view of the whole question of attachment. He said that he felt that *I* (the adult) have a lot of trust and attachment, but, right now, because of the work we are doing, the *girl* is much more present. When I bemoaned how detached and lonely *she* feels, he said it was more than understandable. *She* is trying to trust him, but feels that, if she really lets her guard down, he might turn on her and molest or rape her. He also said, "look how much pain she is willing to go through to try to get attached." I said that it seemed like "everyone else" (i.e. Babblers) have secure attachments, and I feel so bad to have such a struggle with it. He said he thought that genuine attachment, of all the parts, is a RESULT of therapy- it's not something a person with an ego state disorder is able to have at the beginning. What he said really seemed so right to me. What do you think?
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