Posted by Dinah on September 18, 2004, at 8:38:10
In reply to Re: my ego state war » daisym, posted by Aphrodite on September 18, 2004, at 1:32:59
Well, of *course* you don't blame him a bit for doing the sensible business thing. :) But do *you*? I've found it's less trouble for me if I admit being irrationally angry to my therapist, even if I preface it with lots of "I of course understand rationally why you ####, but I still find myself feeling xxxx" And my therapist has found it's less trouble for him if he doesn't answer by justifying his actions logically, but by addressing the feelings of xxxx.
Unless of course, you genuinely don't feel any anger at any level.
I think that's a great idea about asking him to share. I left that out of my account, but once my therapist either intuits or is told that a particular session is devoted to bonding, that usually happens. I open an innocuous topic and he also discloses a bit. My therapist has rather firm boundaries but isn't opposed to innocuous self disclosure. And if he tries to make a point or two along the way, I'm tolerant. :)
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