Posted by lucy stone on August 31, 2004, at 8:34:19
In reply to Male or female -- does it matter?, posted by Aphrodite on August 30, 2004, at 18:01:56
I knew I wanted a man, and I knew I wanted my T to be older than me. I am a professional but have not achieved as much professionally as I could have, primarily because of the problems that led me to seek therapy in the first place. I have major envy issues with other professional women that I thought would get in the way. My T has been a good fit and although talking about sex is a bit awkard it has gotten easier. I think it would have been harder with a woman. As my therapist tells me, though, sooner or later the issues come out even if we try to avoid them. I once asked my T what his wife did, hoping to find out that she was not as accomplished as I am. I found out that not only is she a professional, she is very, very successful in her field. It was devestating for me, but opened up that area in my therapy and I had to address it (a good thing).
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