Posted by asya on August 27, 2004, at 13:28:35
In reply to Re: Complimenting T/getting compliments from T, posted by lucy stone on August 27, 2004, at 13:01:51
This is an interesting topic, and in the nine months that I have been seeing my T, she has complimented by saying I am "wonderful", "smart" etc., but never a physical appearance commen...until recently. A few weeks back she told me she liked me dress and asked where I got it. and this was on my way in, before I had sat down on the proverbial couch. Since we are both females, and she is about 15 years older than me, I don't think the sexual harassment stuff applies, which is maybe why she's ok doing it. At the ame time, her in-session comments about how I'm smart, wonderful, etc. make me feel weird. I don't know, do you guys feel like compliments in the course of therapy are insincere because they don't reflect the T's opinion personally but his/her view of what would be beneficial for you to hear?
anyway, as for appearance compliments, I think the comments above about sexual harassment claims etc are right on for female/male therepeutic relationships.
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