Posted by tinydancer on August 27, 2004, at 11:53:22
This has probably been discussed for, and it maybe is a dumb and insignificant thing, but at my last session my T and I discussed it, and I got kind of irritated afterwards.
He's been looking SO good lately: he has grown his hair really long (Think Orlando Bloom in Troy) and he recently got new clothes even for fall, and every time I see him, I seriously, seriously swoon. He looks absolutely amazing. Like, you would crash your car staring.
Okay, so I'm not really one to hide my feelings, and I always say what I mean, and I like to give compliments (only honest ones of course). And I have been complimenting him a lot lately, because, well, he looks so nice! (Or as I succintly put it, so goddamn nice...) Ha! We got to talking about it and he mentioned how he feels kind of bad because he can't give me compliments (directly) because it is sort of against "cultural laws".
Is it? What is your experience? I notice that my can give me compliments but never exactly "YOU Tinydancer, look nice." It's always more like, "I like your jacket, Tiny D." Or, "Wow, look at how your earrings match your shirt..."
Why is it such a big deal to compliment a client? I know Dinah you talked about this before, feel free to re-enlighten us!!
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