Posted by ramsea on June 30, 2004, at 4:49:57
In reply to Hey, some folks like chubby chicks! » lonelygirl, posted by Racer on March 28, 2004, at 15:44:17
Great post. And so true. I actually exercise 3-4 hrs. everyday (biking, walking hills, yoga) and I eat a normal diet of 1400-1800 cals. I remain obese on my meds, though I have lost weight since stopping the ADs. Whenever I am not taking psychotropic meds my weight is totally good, right where the chart says it should be, and I don't exercise nearly as much and I eat about the same.
I am not a binge-type anyway, except when I took Lexapro and Celexa which caused me to sincerely sleepwalk and eat lots of carbos without recognition. It was too weird, and freaked my husband out too. He didn't believe it could be a side effect of a drug, but some behavior problem. However, when I dropped the ADs this behavior totally stopped without my trying anything or even thinking anything. It was an uncontrollable drug side effect--end of story.
Why don't people speak out about all the various malfunctions that can cause massive weight gain in people who are not gluttons, and who in act eat less and exercise more than the majority of average sized people around them?
I am aware some people do overeat compulsively, but the fact is not all overweight people do. Also, some people are seemingly built by nature to be bigger than most people--you can tell fromthe head size, shoulders, etc. A girl with big proportions that she can't change through normal weight maintenance--a truly bigboned girl---is in for trouble if she doesn't accept her bigness and make the most of it. The big guy just ends up being a football hero, or a bouncer, or considered manly. Mind you, I am not referring to fatness here--just muscle and bone structure. Some human beings are built more widely--there's nothing to be done for it. No surgery or diet will change this.
What you said about proportions is very true, too. I have also seen a certain famous women in person and was shocked at the strangeness of her well-renowned shape. I know that surgical adjustment in the breasts, a few ribs taken out,and liposuction here and there, created a little bubbly haired woman that looked very topheavy, like she'd fall over any moment fom the weight of her blown-out bosom. On camera, she looks wonderful. In person, quite honestly she looked freakish.
Role models for women these days are not far removed from the category of torture victim. I often think of how the Chinese used to bind the feet of higher status little girls so that their feet wouldn't grow up with them. Throughout childhood they would experience excruciating pain as the bones tried to grow against the enforced resistance. Dainty feet would result---considered beautiful---but the woman would never be able to walk well for herself.
We use anaesthesia these days, but surgery results in wounding and sometimes worse. And what of the constant mental pain of feeling your body is inferior? IMO we "bind our own feet" by insisting that our bodies should look like a "models" or some other entertainment star.
A rich, independent, academic woman friend of mine subjected herself to liposuction on her thighs. Not being catty, but she was in bed for several weeks, bleeding all over the place--had to get a doctor--it was a mess. The final result--I and some others who know her well would never say this to her, but her legs look funny. She still has nature's own hips and buttocks, and she is very shapely and beautiful. But it looks weird when you see the sudden dip in her shape--nature had a better vision. She had thighs that matched her hips. Only terrible disease will give her a skinny figure, she is voluptuos and very attractive in the eyes of most people, but she is not thin. She has too much muscle packed on a wider skeletal frame to ever achieve a dainty Courtney Cox type shape. I wish I lived in a world where that was okay, or even better than just okay.
It's scary to live in a world which would intimidate this stong and privleged woman to feel inadequate enough to undergo risky and ultimately counterproductive invasive procedures in an effort to look like an image in a fashion magazine or a TV sitcom.
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