Posted by Racer on March 30, 2004, at 8:37:56
In reply to Re: Hey, some folks like chubby chicks! » Racer, posted by lonelygirl on March 29, 2004, at 9:45:22
Listen, there is something beautiful about you and you're not listening to us or you'd have heard it already: what you share with us here is a beautiful personality. I know I'm trying to get that across to you, and it seems as if others are, too. We can't see you, so all we know is your personality as shown here. Many of us think the parts of you apparent here are beautiful, which is why we answer you so frequently. That's not like saying, "oh, but she has a pretty personality," which is only said by people who can see you in person. That's like, "Wow! Here's someone I'd like to know."
As for the specific factors you mentioned, I too am uneven in most parts of my body: one eye is more open than the other; one very large, droopy breast is larger than the other; I've got huge, keloid surgical scars all over my body; I've got a big, pot belly that never goes away; and my upper leg bones stick way out to the side, making it look as if I've got saddle bags you could pack for a month's vacation. That's not to mention the other middle aged changes to my body, like droopy upper arms, chicken wattle neck, and dry, wrinkly skin with acne. Now go ahead, ask me if I worry about my looks? Not much. Sure, all that stuff bothers me to a lesser or greater extent, but I don't much worry about it. Nor do I worry much about my nose most of the time -- the same nose that my cousin says doesn't have character, it has a full cast! It's still my nose. (Unfortunately, it's attached to my sinuses -- but that's a whole nother story...)
lonelygirl, you do have beauty, but you need to stop worrying so much about it to see it. Sorta backwards, huh? Trust me on this one, if you want other people to see that beauty, think about how you bring it out here. Think about what your passions are, and focus on them. Anyone who discusses his or her passions Is Beautiful to anyone who'd matter in your life.
I really wish I could help you gain confidence to step back and see your own beauty -- or at least all the elements that make you popular here. Sure, we're all whacko, but we're also the self-selected Amazing Whackoes and we all seem to like you. I hope that helps sometimes for you, and that you can learn to draw strength from it and start showing the rest of the world what you show us.
Good luck
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