Posted by LG04 on June 25, 2004, at 10:33:17
In reply to Re: Therapy heartache, posted by Bent on June 24, 2004, at 14:23:59
Hi Bent,
I also get into a lot of pain from transference with my therapist. I also wish it would go away and often want to run away. It makes sense that we'd feel that way. After all, the feelings are painful and frustrating (sometimes infuriating) and deeply uncomfortable to say the least. I try to remind myself that these are feelings that I have inside of me from my childhood experiences. It's not really about my therapist...she just triggers them. If I don't work thru them, they will still be inside of me and they will keep my outside relationships from being as intimate/rewarding as they could be. (and my relationship with myself)
As I posted somewhere else, I also know that I have had intense transference with people outside of therapy that has been equally if not more painful because I couldn't talk to them about it or work thru it with them. So, I'd rather have it with my therapist.
But yes, it sucks.
LG
p.s. I agree with the others that I'd definitely call your therapist before she goes on vacation. I wouldn't want to have those feelings stirring around inside of me the whole time she is gone. I think that would be very painful.
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