Posted by Dinah on June 24, 2004, at 8:04:31
In reply to Therapy heartache, posted by Bent on June 24, 2004, at 7:50:38
Hi Bent. This is a mutual support board, so we're pretty much fellow clients.
I don't think any of us got anything from our therapists without asking. When mine was going out of town a lot, I asked for a meditation tape recorded in his own voice. He nearly always tells me I'm free to call him while he's gone, because he knows if he tells me I won't need to call. But we discussed that first. If he's gone for some reason where calling him wouldn't be possible, we talk about any feelings I have about it. He does bring up those conversations, but only because he's aware from my telling him that it's an issue.
If she's not gone yet, and hasn't been discouraging of phone calls, I'd call her and tell her that I wasn't totally forthcoming about how distressing this trip was going to be for me, and what I needed from her (in terms of empathy or reassurance). You might not get it (I don't always), but a good therapist should be sensitive to the subject (and familiar with it too).
When in doubt, disclose, is my motto in general with therapists. They can't help us if we don't tell them what's going on.
poster:Dinah
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