Posted by pegasus on June 16, 2004, at 15:52:17
In reply to Therapy Hangover sick day (long), posted by tabitha on June 16, 2004, at 14:22:38
Oh, wow, tabitha, that sounds rough. And I don't blame you at all for staying home. I would have too. And I would have cried if someone in my group started saying lots of negative things about me. Especially if my own therapist was throwing out "helpful" suggestions about more negative things. Yikes! It doesn't sound at all unreasonable to me that you would have the reaction that you had. Is your therapist recognizing that your reaction is valid? I mean, even if she also sees it a different way? Frankly, I don't know too many people who could have taken that group scenario as a positive thing. And I seriously doubt that that woman was trying to make friends with you.
I know what you mean about your therapist having an alternative universe where everything seems so much happier and more benign. But, does that really make her view any more valid? I hope she's at least understanding how you've come to have the feelings that you have. It sounds a little bit as though she's not validating you.
I don't even know what to say about the possibility of your T knowing that this woman didn't care for you, while at the same time trying to get you to see her behavior as a sign of something else. That's just twisted. What is your T's side of this argument? Does she say that she *didn't* know that the other woman had these negative thoughts? I think that would be the only defensible position here.
Many hugs and wishes for your crying jag to end. *We* like you a lot even if that awful woman doesn't.
pegasus
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