Posted by pegasus on June 10, 2004, at 11:03:06
In reply to Core belief about being wanted, posted by tabitha on June 10, 2004, at 1:54:19
Hi tabitha,
I've fought with similar thoughts in my own therapy, and I know it's super tough. I think one thing you can do with the insight you describe is to work really hard at examining and challenging those thoughts. CBT has been really helpful for me with this. I'm starting to see how those thoughts are just opinions, and that the real me is just a person like everyone else, with strengths and weaknesses. I don't have to be a superhero in order to escape from being an awful, horrible person that no one wants around. I can be in between, like most people, and really that's pretty good. People actually do like me for my better qualities, even if they don't like some of my more unfortunate qualities.
I don't know if that helps. It might seem obvious. But it took me a long time to see that in between space, and I still struggle with allowing parts of the negativity while not being overwhelmed by them. And, of course, with seeing the positive things.
I wish you a lot of luck with all of this. I think you're well on your way, just by seeing the pattern.
pegasus
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