Posted by karen_kay on June 5, 2004, at 20:59:00
In reply to Re: Speaking of transference » gardenergirl, posted by DaisyM on June 5, 2004, at 20:23:29
Somehow, what she didn't do hurts worse, or at least as much, as what my dad did do.
you too, eh? i really used to harbor alot of resentment towards my mother. but, in my case, my father was a 'father' to me. when i was hurt, he was there. when i needed support, he was there. i mean, growing up, my mother was the 'bad guy'. she was ill, abusive and unsupportive. but, my father defended me. and still, my mother's neglect to me hurts much more than anything my father could have done. at least he took me to the park. at least he wasn't hurtful (that i remembered). at least he was there. i'm glad that i'm not alone in feeling this way. strange thing is, bubba never did want to talk about my mother much. but, at least i was able to work past many of the issues i had with her. i don't know how i did, but i did.
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