Posted by Pfinstegg on May 31, 2004, at 17:49:27
In reply to Re: Maybe I can post this part » gardenergirl, posted by Dinah on May 31, 2004, at 14:21:19
Dinah, what you have been posting is very interesting- and seems kind of new for you. I could be completely off here, but wanted to write a few thoughts which have been coming to mind as I read your posts. First, there is the improvement in your sense of security because of going twice a week; it does seem connected to various things you have written about feeling better and enjoying other parts of your life more. But maybe this very sense of increased security has allowed your more mistrustful, doubting feelings to enter into your sessions more. You're not at all alone in having these feelings- we all do, and I think it's an important part of therapy to include and express them fully. No fun to do it, though! But it wouldn't be good to avoid it- it would just be work left undone. As you do that, you'll be integrating those parts of you with your loving, trustful parts.
As to the suggestions about hair coloring, he's just *off* there. You probably have healthier views in that area than he does, so I'd stick to your guns about not wanting appearance comments. I don't think those are ever useful in therapy, whether they are positive or negative. But, you know, all therapist make mistakes once in a while, even analysts!
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