Posted by KindGirl on April 4, 2004, at 0:44:55
In reply to Re: I think what I've decided to do..., posted by KindGirl on April 4, 2004, at 0:30:54
The teacher in me says "practice makes perfect," and I do believe it has been true for me in very delicate situations. For instance, I shared here and at another forum that I was worried I might be gay because I had such strong feelings for my female t. I was HORRIFIED, ASHAMED, oh I was a mess...and my hands were sweating as I hit the "send" button. But I will say, in practicing talking about it in safe arenas and with safe people, it helped me come out of my shell in really hard topics with my t. All the support you get here and in other supportive relationships MIGHT help you share it with your t. What do you think? Can you hop on over to another forum and just talk about that particular subject? Nobody knows your identity on these forums, I think, so it seems like a good starting place to practice talking about some of these deep wounds. Just a suggestion because I know how lonely and shameful it can be to hide a secret when in reality it probably is something other people struggle with and can help you through it. I know that a lot of other women had said they struggled at one point or another about strong feelings for their t's and the whole sexuality confusion, and so when I casually mentioned it to my t that it felt gay to have her hold me I was able to say it and not be so afraid.
Gentle hugs to you and take care. Hope you get some encouragement here and hope you have a good weekend and this all works out for you.
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