Posted by DaisyM on April 1, 2004, at 11:00:27
In reply to Re: Childhood, posted by pegasus on March 31, 2004, at 17:39:53
I worry all the time about what I might be doing to my kids that I don't realize hurts them. I've talked about this with my Therapist who says it is a universal truth that parents hurt their kids in some way. I usually whine at this point that I want them to blame THEIR DAD though, not me!
I have huge issues with my parents and love them both tons. My mother is the most amazing person I know yet she will never be for me what I want or need. My Dad is two people for me, the one I know now and the one I knew then.
And while we do spend lots of time in therapy on the "bad" stuff, we have talked about the good parts too. My Therapist says what Karen's says: You couldn't be who you are without some good things. It helps me to think that as people, my parents have failings. And my mom did her best. She "parented" really well. She just forgot to "mother" me...
So don't beat yourself up about talking about your parents in therapy. This is a judgement free zone in which to explore who you are and how you came to be this way. And most importantly, where do you want to go next and how do you get there.
poster:DaisyM
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