Posted by All Done on March 22, 2004, at 21:15:41
In reply to Re: Shared with my T (long update) » All Done, posted by lonelygirl on March 22, 2004, at 2:52:48
> That's good that you have made him aware of the list. Maybe now he will try to make sure you get to it. I sometimes forget that my psychologist is not a mind-reader, and he doesn't always know when I want to talk about something different.
Well, I think this is where the hard work has just started for me. My T has never picked the topic of discussion for my sessions and I don't think this will be the exception - list or no list. I told him I was letting him know about the list to give myself some accountability. I do wish he was a mind reader sometimes, though. Wouldn't that make everything so much easier :)?
> In a way, I am glad that he is remembering what I said and trying so hard to take my feelings into account, but at the same time, it annoys me a little bit, because it feels like he is trying to appease me, and it seems kind of manipulative. Of course, I know that the other stuff is kind of manipulative, too (his calm demeanor, being nice to me, saying he is not going to reject or abandon me, etc.), but I guess he has more practice at that stuff, so it's more believable.
I know what you mean about it feeling manipulative, but I do hope and believe that, at least for me, those feelings will fade. I think my T is helping me to learn to trust him by staying consistant even if he does seem insincere at times. I don't know if this makes sense, but eventually, that consistancy will make me believe he is telling the truth because he is going to give me no other option.
I really didn't mean to sound negative about my T. I think perhaps I have a bit (or ton) of projection and transference issues hard at work this week.
It really does sound like you have a pretty good T and you do seem very nice. Please don't rule out the possibility that he really does care for you. I wouldn't be at all surprised to hear that that's the truth. (((Lonelygirl)))
Take care,
All Done
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