Posted by Fallen4myT on March 20, 2004, at 22:08:27
In reply to Re: Really want to know the truth? » Fallen4myT, posted by lonelygirl on March 20, 2004, at 21:57:53
I do not think you are exaggerating I think that is how YOU see YOU and being you do not like yourself too much you may put up a sheild to not be liked..thats just my thinking on it. It is my opinion that one can be obese....and nasty in mood and still not be "ugly" To ME ugly is rare and based not on hurt and possible defense mechinisims but by truly HATEFUL people and they IMO are rare...You can be obese and not ugly or any of that. I am thinking MAYBE he doesnt see a bad nasty person he may see a sad and angry one and doesnt hate you. AND I am agreeing I am right on attachments. I have a nephew he must weigh over 300 pounds but he is so nice and cute and funny..he could be surly from pain and I would see him not as ugly but as needing help because I could see he was maybe that way to keep folks away..You want to be disliked I am thinking?
> I hate how people always assume that I am exaggerating and digging for compliments when I am honest about myself. Believe me, I am definitely NOT cute. I am very overweight (for real, I am fat enough to qualify for gastric bypass surgery) and just ugly. I have never been liked or asked out by a guy in my entire life. I am really, seriously not cute in the least.
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> I am not very nice either. The whole reason I got sent to counseling in the first place was that I got in a fight with another girl and said things to her that weren't nice, and he knows that, and he knows that I'm not nice. As a matter of fact, he knows me better than any of the other 50,000 people or so on the campus (I have talked to him a total of 9 hours), so he knows even more about how not nice I really am.
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> I suppose I may be a little funny, but even my sense of humor puts people off sometimes. As a matter of fact, the person from the school who forced me to go to counseling in the first place told me (I had to meet with him about the incident), "You're so sarcastic -- and you're not even funny." I don't have any friends, and nobody likes me, so I highly doubt that he would like me any more than anybody else. In fact, he probably hates me more than anybody else because he knows me better than they do. Some people just hate me in a shallow way, because they think that I'm stupid and ugly, but he hates me because he thinks that I am a horrible, and probably crazy, person.
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> You are correct, though, that I do not like attachments. Sometimes, I wish I had just gotten assigned to someone I couldn't stand, and then when my mandatory counseling was up, I could have left and never looked back. Unfortunately, it didn't happen that way.
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