Posted by DaisyM on March 20, 2004, at 0:40:20
One of our conversations in therapy this week veered into my idea of being a burden...I don't typically ask anyone for anything because I don't want to be a burden. I don't mean about routine things like maybe a ride from the mechanic or something, but more about asking for emotional support or help. Or even, just sharing a bad day. Babble is teaching me more about that than anywhere else...
So my homework is to write about two things: If reality was suspended momentarily, and I KNEW that I could ask a friend to do something for me, and it wouldn't be a problem, what would I ask? (within the confines of decency and friendship -- no sex, not something illegal and not to reveal the lottery numbers)
I think I would like to have a friend spend the day with me, perhaps working on a cooking project in the kitchen with the ability to talk about EVERYTHING that is going on. Nothing held back and they would understand why therapy is such a struggle for me. I then imagine having my hair washed, dried and combed by my friend, eating comfort foods for dinner and watching some sappy movie together.
'The other answer is I would like someone to clean out my garage and my closet for me.
Second part: same rules, what would I ask my Therapist to do for me?
This is much harder. My first hit was that I would like him to tell me what he thinks I should talk about and work on. But actually, I think if I could wish something, I would wish for him to outline the "secret" rules for therapy for me: like, how he interprets where I sit, and how I curl myself up on the couch; what he thinks (really thinks!) when I call; if he's noticed that there are topics that we've touched on but I avoid, and how long he thinks all this will take. I guess I would wish for a really frank conversation or him explaining all this. Of course, he probably would tell me all these things individually if I asked, and then he'd want to know why I wanted to know. And then we would have to talk about my intense need to know all the "right" ways to do something so I can get it completely right and be the best ever therapy patient.I have to think of something else. I can see where this conversation is going to go. Someone help me...I need suggestions! Plus, I'd like to see your answers.
Daisy
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