Posted by Dinah on March 20, 2004, at 21:17:16
In reply to Really want to know the truth?, posted by lonelygirl on March 20, 2004, at 21:02:16
And what if that isn't what he's thinking?
What if he's thinking that he wishes he could help you see how much you have to offer the world? That he wants to help you be the best you can be? That he wants you to know there are people that you can trust to be in your corner if only you'll let them?
It is scary to be attached, isn't it? I used to think of reasons to shake my attachment. I used to obsessively read therapist horror stories to see all the reasons I couldn't trust my therapist (I guess I still do sometimes). But darn it, he always stayed trustworthy, no matter what I did or how much I tried to convince myself otherwise.
It seemed so simple to me. People I cared about used that caring to hurt me, or let me down emotionally. So therefore it wasn't safe to care. But I think I was missing out on so much by protecting myself so carefully. And my therapist is the one who taught me that. :) Not only with himself, but also by encouraging me to reach out to others. (Not that it always worked, because it didn't. But it worked more often than I would have guessed.)
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