Posted by catachrest on February 26, 2004, at 14:39:59
In reply to Re: how to make myself talk » Karen_kay, posted by CareBear04 on February 24, 2004, at 17:34:22
I really identify with Carebear and KarenKay. I often find that my T will ask me a question or soemthing and I'll just sit there quietly because I don't know how to answer. It's hard to know why but I just don't know where to start. It's like he asked the question in Russian, or had inquired about the inner workings of quarks, or something.(I think I might have done better with the quarks question.) ONe time it was "What do you want?" (in the greater sense of what do you want in life, what do you want to change). I couldn't say anything. Finally, after about 5 minutes (felt like 5 hours) I came up with "lunch"....Now I talk more but it feels like small talk more than anything else. I don't know why I'm so defensive, or if that's even the problem. I want help but I don't know how to respond to his method. The other day he mentioned that I'm being resistant, which I had to admit was true in retrospect, though I've been consciously trying to be as open as possible. I think often he perceives it as resistance when really I just don't know what to say. Sigh. This whole therapy thing is so frustrating.
Susan
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