Posted by Dinah on February 26, 2004, at 9:58:20
In reply to Re: I asked for A Do-Over » Dinah, posted by Karen_kay on February 25, 2004, at 17:04:41
I can't imagine that anyone would pigeonhole you as "the girl who" anything. You are obviously too complex and vibrant for that. But have you considered asking Bubba what the makeup of the group will be? And of course I know that you know that nothing that happened to you as a child is your fault or your responsibility.
But unless this group is made up of people with similar issues to yours, I have to agree with you that the timing might not be quite right. Have you asked Bubba for explanations of group that have to do with *you* and not with his desire to keep you as a client or his excitement at putting together his very first group? Heaven knows, he might have very good reasons, or his supervisor might have very good reasons. And maybe if there are good reasons that have to do with *you* and not them, you might feel a bit less angry about the whole thing.
Sigh. I wish I could help you see that when I see you I don't see someone who should be despised or pitied. And you don't need to work so hard at being perfect either. You are inherently valuable and loveable and worthwhile. You, Karen Kay, as you are. Without trying. What you create when you're trying is a lovely lovely setting, but one for a gem that is beautiful all by itself. I wish I could help you see that. But I'm guessing that it's something you need to see for yourself.
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