Posted by pegasus on February 19, 2004, at 15:12:38
In reply to Fighting to relationship, posted by Dinah on February 19, 2004, at 13:48:00
Dinah, I don't really know what to say to your post, but I feel like I want to say something. I can tell you've struggled a lot, and have managed to create a relationship with your therapist that is valuable for you. I have incredible respect for that accomplishment.
I have no wisdom to share about when it's worth the fight. I do know, though, that when a relationship feels destructive, that's when it's not worth it. I've had the experience of realizing that the other person is not going to be able to be there in the relationship the way you need. But even then, sometimes, it seems worth holding on.
I guess what I wanted to say was that I hope someday you can have the type of helpful relationship you describe without having to fight so hard. I wish that for all my babble friends, and myself. I think the good ones don't always have to be such a struggle.
- p
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