Posted by gardenergirl on February 4, 2004, at 6:50:35
In reply to Re: ok, now it hurts, posted by alexandra_k on February 4, 2004, at 2:46:07
Crushedout,
I'm so sorry you are in pain. I know how much you care about your T and how much you wanted to have your feelings reciprocated. I think Alexandra K's response is right on, and I really don't have much to add to it.It's perfectly normal to wish for more from your T. As much as it hurts right now, and I'm sure you don't want to hear this right now, but it is a valuable therapeutic experience to go through this. It is the first step towards working through the transference, which I believe you will be able to do in time.
But you are also grieving this loss and will probably experience a variety of feelings. I encourage you to share those feelings with your T, even if you are embarrassed, angry, or afraid of damaging the relationship. If she is worth her salt, and I am guessing she is, then this also will help in the long run.
Please take extra care of yourself at this time. It is a loss, and I know it hurts. And keep posting!
(((crushedout)))
gg
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