Posted by Racer on February 2, 2004, at 21:59:01
In reply to Re: a thought about rage... » Penny, posted by antigua on February 2, 2004, at 21:04:57
Ain't it ironic that this is such a common theme? I think we're mostly women, too, which doesn't surprise me at all. There are societal rules against women expressing anger, and I think that that has a lot to do with why more women are dxed with depression than men. Not that men don't get depressed as often as women, but that many men have learned to express their feelings of anger through approved outlets like team sports, or unapproved outlets like violent acts.
For me, if it's any help, I'm learning to express anger better, but I can't handle the idea of Expressing Anger. I'm breaking the larger concept into smaller bits, and working on them one at a time. Right now, I can express anger to someone it's not directed towards -- which was a big step for me, and I'm not rock solid on it yet -- but I can't quite express anger-in-the-moment to the person who's triggered it. Fortunately, my husband is someone I feel as if I can trust not to abandon me for being angry with him. Mostly.
It's a long road, one step at a time, I guess.
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