Posted by tinydancer on February 1, 2004, at 4:00:22
In reply to Re: Asking T if he has sexual fantasies about you pt2, posted by Karen_kay on January 31, 2004, at 12:19:53
> WOOOOOOOWWWW!!!! Ummmm...wow! Utter shock! I can't believe he admitted it! Girl, you have courage to ask that. It's amazing that you had the courage to ask your therapist that question. It almost makes me wonder if we are seeing the same therapist...
I couldn't believe I had the guts either. But it was more like this compulsive thing. I had to ask, I couldn't get it off my mind. But I also feel that I will not gain anything unless I am open with my T as much as I can be. And that means to me not concealing anything, no matter how uncomfortable that truth may be.
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> It's hard to say whether he was in the right by answering that question. How did that make you feel when he answered it? I can tell by your post that you have "propositioned" him numerous times, am I correct? Is this a habit of yours?It's OK!! Um....Not a habit, but I have reminded him a few times or asked him a few times why he won't take me out, for just one night. That's sort of my standing offer. And when he answered me I was actually dead shocked, I mean, that isn't an emotion I feel very often but I was shocked. Not aroused though. If he had given details maybe....
(Pardon me for being nosey, I'm sorry and feel free to teel me to kiss off, just being curious)... I'd say he had a reason for answering your question.
He respected my desire to know, respected that I had dared to ask, mustered up the courage to ask so he honored that with a reply, is how I think of it. (Gee, can you tell I adore the guy? I make him sound like a knight or something...)
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> It's great to know that your therapist will answer your questions and be honest. I have a similar relationship with mine. And it's all about trust and trying to see that he's "human"..
> How much did him answering your question raise your trust in him?
> I bet you trust him a whole lot more now, right?I do trust him more in a different way. I realize that he can handle any question I throw his way. That means a lot. That he won't laugh at me, that means more than anything.
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