Posted by fallsfall on January 21, 2004, at 10:55:16
In reply to Re: Daisy? How is it going? » DaisyM, posted by Dinah on January 21, 2004, at 6:48:23
You said: In the end, I was in tears and he asked what was happening and I said I felt like I was sinking because I felt like my thoughts about being basically emotionally flawed had been confirmed.
I can identify with this feeling - the flawed business. But I really believe for me (and I would think it would be true for you, too) that I came into this world as a whole person - with the capability of growing into a person who had all the right emotional stuff. My family couldn't teach me the right things when I was little. I'm sure that I wasn't the easiest person to teach, but they really didn't do a very good job. I DO believe, however, that I still have the inate ability to learn how to be emotionally human. I think that it is HARDER to learn this at age 46, but I think that it is possible. That is why I'm in therapy. Because I want to learn to be human. I believe that it is possible for me to learn to be human - that belief is my HOPE.
You have been so caring and thoughtful on this board. You, too, have the inate ability to be human. And you want to be human. Your "emotional flaws" (and mine) are not hopeless. They are also not as devistating as we feel they are - if they were we would have no relationships and would have done no good in our lives (clearly this is not the case for either of us) Please see that you aren't to "blame" for those flaws, but also that they don't have to be forever flaws. Your SOUL is impeccable. It's time to find a way for that soul to shine through.
(((((Daisy)))))
Email me at babble fallsfall at hotmail.com if you would like.
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