Posted by fallsfall on January 20, 2004, at 7:54:52
In reply to Re: Oh Daisy!, posted by DaisyM on January 19, 2004, at 22:47:58
(((((Daisy)))))
You wrote: I decided that I must be really frustrating because I need to control everything.
Gee, my whole session yesterday was about control, too. It is so hard to see what we really are doing and know how it is affecting others. But let's get realistic here. We may like to control things - but there is a reason. It's not like we are trying to oppress people - at least for me, it is that I think that I can help them make their world and my world better if we do it my way. I really have good motives, and I'm sure you do, too.
So, when you are beating yourself up for being so controlling, please remember that you mean well, and that you want good things for people. You are a wonderful person.
Don't worry just yet about changing the behavior. Just accept that you are a good person who behaves sometimes in a way that you don't like so much. Later on, you can work to help the good person show her "niceness" in a different way.
But you truly are a good person.
You and I can learn to be less controlling together. OK?
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