Posted by fallsfall on January 15, 2004, at 21:44:04
In reply to Re: Ranting and Ranting and Ranting, Oh My! » fallsfall, posted by All Done on January 14, 2004, at 23:23:53
It was not a good session.
He did explain why talking to other people can be a problem. Say you have a couple, and the woman is in therapy. One day she comes home and starts talking in a way the guy has never heard her talk before. He is confused - is this her talking, or is she just saying what her therapist said?
So if I talk to people about things we are talking about in therapy and then go back and talk to him, using some ideas that I got from Babble, I could sound inconsistent to him (am I who I sounded like before, or am I who I sound like now?). That makes it hard for him to help me because I'm more of a moving target.
I see the point he was trying to make - but none of us live in a vacuum... I'm not sure if I agree with him or not. He would see the same issue if I was talking to local people - it is not an internet issue.
It was a long session, and we talked about more than just what I explain above, but by the end I was convinced that I was wrong and bad. Even though he told me "You are not wrong or bad", it didn't matter. I was not happy when I left.
I sat in my (cold, cold) car (with the heater on) for 45 minutes, got some movies and went home. Very soon after I got home the phone was for me. It was my therapist. He knew that I was upset and he wanted to talk for a minute. He reminded me that I'm not wrong or bad. He told me I could call him tomorrow if I needed to. He had called an hour earlier and left a message with my daughter for me to call him (but I really hadn't been home long enough to get the message).
Then I sneezed 20 times and have a whopper cold going. I don't know if my brain is foggy from the session or from my brand new cold.
It was sweet of him to call (twice!).
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