Posted by DaisyM on December 23, 2003, at 17:21:07
In reply to Re: I'm still here. (long), posted by Karen_kay on December 23, 2003, at 16:37:10
>>>>>Worse yet, I'm being needy adn asking for things that I should be able to get on my own. I shouldn't need his support. He's a paid doctor. He's not my dad. I don't need his approval. I don't need his kind words. I don't need his advice. I don't need anything from him. I just want it. And I want him to realize it, without ME having to ask for it.
<<<Why should you be able to get these things on your own??? That is why you are in therapy. There are so many "I don't need..." in your post yet...maybe you do?! He isn't a mind reader, you have to ask. Plus, the sucky part of therapy is getting what we need (?) instead of what we might want.
Maybe you need someone to consult with around all of this? You said he is CBT, maybe you need some short term Psychotherapy. Gratification isn't what they do, but trauma work is pretty specific and you need someone who is able to handle a crisis.
That said, I think you really, really need to find a sweet spot about your Therapist while he is away. And think about that. We can make the bad loom large by giving it too much space and weight. I know I do that. We are so vulnerable to every little thing.
Put all of this away for now, don't work on it too much by yourself unless you are writing stuff to talk about later. Get support here. I'm worried about you.
Go make more cookies. I'm off to brave the mad house for the last of my shopping. Wish me luck!
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