Posted by Pfinstegg on December 18, 2003, at 22:11:26
In reply to Judy's wisdom, posted by naiad on December 18, 2003, at 12:05:29
I just saw my analyst's wife, with him, at a concert, last night! She was pretty, and looked nice. I felt jealous and anxious, although I was able to calm down after a bit. The main hurdle, for me, was negotiating a smile and "hi" with him, but I did it, and he responded in kind. But, of course, I had a session with him today, and we spent almost the WHOLE time exploring my feelings about this encounter. He asked several direct questions about my feeling, fears, hopes and fantasies about it, and I had to go much further than I wanted to, in comparing myself to his wife, admitting to my jealousy, competitiveness with her, hope (and dread) of having him for myself- on and on. We ended on a relatively peaceful note, but I hope it's a long while before I run into them again!
Pfinstegg
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