Posted by Joslynn on December 17, 2003, at 20:49:05
In reply to Re: shrink's wife wonderings » Karen_kay, posted by DaisyM on December 17, 2003, at 19:55:51
Ok, I'm glad I'm not a freak. Thank you for responding.
Hmm, I don't think it's really an erotic transference. It's more like, I want him to love me in a very courtly, knightly way, from afar, but without actually acting on it.
Last time I saw him, I had a date later that evening and I was in my "date hair" and my "date makeup" (you ladies know what I mean) and he said I looked pretty and asked where I was headed. So of course later when I thought about that comment, part of me wondered if he was secretly jealous of my date and if he thought I was prettier than his wife...? That is not a nice way for me to think about another woman though. And even if am prettier than she, she is the one he loves as a wife.
(The date didn't turn out that well by the way.)
I just wish I could get the upper hand and he could wonder about me outside the office and feel jealous about the people in my life instead of the other way around. Of course, he works so much, would I even want to be his wfie, and see him so little? No.
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