Posted by naiad on December 16, 2003, at 12:21:06
In reply to Re: Transferance questions, posted by LostGirl on December 16, 2003, at 11:25:57
Hi Lostgirl,
Thanks for the post -- I didn't give a verbatim account of the interaction with my therapist -- not only did he say "let's keep it in the room" he also said " why do you want to go to the classic use of the term?" (transfer of my feelings for my mother onto a better version of her, my therapsit). I know it was not because there was some question of my taking it directly to my mother.
This all came up because I told him about something I had noticed about the way my brain was working. Whenever I did something well, my first thought was "wouldn't my therpaist be proud of me." I told him about it and said my interpretation of this link was that I wanted my mother to be proud of me and that I saw this as an example of transferance. That's when he said "let's keep it in the room" Clearly the implication (at least at the time it was clear) was that he didn't want to focus on my mother issues. It seemed to me that he wanted to know more about how I felt about him. Maybe the therapuetic part is for me to understand that I need and crave empathy, security, and approval (who doesn't?).
I sometimes feel like I do all the talking and love it when he chimes in with some great and wise insight. Hope your new therapist will listen more and talk less.
Naiad
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