Posted by naiad on December 15, 2003, at 18:45:55
In reply to Re: Transferance questions » naiad, posted by judy1 on December 15, 2003, at 18:30:06
> James gave a good definition and you read Lott's book (which I agree is excellent) yet you still don't get the difference between transference and 'being in love'. You are experiencing transference- you're projecting your feelings. I don't know your particular issues, but obviously abandonment is one, and it's so incredibly common. I am guessing your therp wants to know the details of your feelings so you both can figure out the why and who they are really meant for. Once you do that you can move on to other issues. does any of this make sense?
When I tried to make the link between my transferance and my mother ( who was and still is the big issue in my life), he said "let's keep it in the room." (Meaning - let's talk about us and not your mother) Does that sound provacative? As if possibly he is the one who is encouraging the discussion of OUR realtionship vs mine with my mother?I think you're right. I don't really get it...
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