Posted by Karen_kay on December 3, 2003, at 13:58:53
In reply to Re: Therapist gives in once again » Karen_kay, posted by Poet on December 2, 2003, at 16:14:26
> I think he said the marriage statement to emphasize that the two of you are heading close to a boundary that is dangerous to cross.
<<I agree. I do find it odd, however that he only referred to his possible actions. I have never once seriously considered that he might possibly be interested in me. I would understand that he may want to stop saying somethign like that, as it may be "leading my fantasy on" or something silly like that, but his comment just kinda threw me for a loop.
> Telling you are beautiful is a self-esteem boost, does he say it hoping you will recognize your inner and outer beauty on your own?
<<He has always said that he tells me that to show me that men can see me as a beautiful woman without seeing me in a lustful way (as in saying I'm beautiful, but not making a pass at me). That is what he says. Does that make sense? It did at the time. I don't need any help with my self-esteem (at least I don't think I do), adn I've asked him aobut it. He agrees. Maybe he thinks I do and he just isn't telling me? Do they work like that, therapists that is?
> My therapist found ways to tell me that I'm intelligent for months on end, until I finally acknowledged it.<<Your posts sound very intelligent, it is time you realized you are too!
Thanks for the input!!
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