Posted by Karen_kay on December 2, 2003, at 16:44:31
In reply to Re: Therapist gives in once again, posted by zenn4 on December 2, 2003, at 14:47:45
> Because, therapists are people too, with their "stuff" and counter-transference. You should ask him why he lets you manipulate him.
Does he think you are?<<I will ask him next week. I'm sure he knows I do. We even spoke a bit about boundaries today, I brought it up. I told him I send thank you cards in a way to test my boundaries, to see if he'll tell me not to. (I don't send them everyday or anything, just once every couple of months or so)He just laughed and said he appreciated them. He just thinks it is funny. I try to be honest and he doesn't get it.
If you don't want him to "give in", then why try?
<<I do want him to give in, yet I don't. I need to test my boundaries. He knows I have a problem with manipulation. And I've told him many times that I need him to almost be "mean" to me. I know he can't do that, but he has to create boundaries and stick to them. But, when he creates boundaries, I fight them and he gives in every time. I understand we have to compromise aobut some things but if he can't hold true to something as petty as this, then when I really need him to stay strong how can I trust him to? I guess I test people too much, but it is really hard for me to trust people.
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