Posted by Miss Honeychurch on November 26, 2003, at 7:33:42
In reply to Re: Jealousy in Psychotherapy, posted by tabitha on November 26, 2003, at 3:18:24
Well, my appointment is at 1 pm today (EST), so we'll see if I have the courage to bring this up.
Karen, he compliments me all the time as a person, etc. I'm fairly certain though that he really doesn't want to get into the physical stuff. My main complaint is that the floozy girlfriend really is an awful person on the inside, she just happens to be pretty. It kills me that I have been seeing him for almost 5 months, he knows me fairly well, and I would KILL for any sort of physical compliment from him. And this girl, whom he does not know, gets one right away. Plus, it sort of now set a standard in my mind about what he finds attractive. The floozy is over 6 feet, blond hair, blue eyes, slender. I'm 5'9, auburn hair, hazel eyes, and slightly overweight (but I have nice curves!). So I guess now I figure if he finds the floozy attractive, he certainly doesn't find me pretty. And what we're working on now is the old "Who cares what others think" attitude, so I think he would PURPOSEFULLY withhold a physical compliment just on that reason alone.
And then I think, well, he just made an off hand remark, we're all human. I'll post an update later this afternoon. Thanks for all of your advice everybody. I must warn you all though, I am a total coward and hate confrontation and making anyone feel uncomfortable.
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