Posted by Penny on October 2, 2003, at 8:59:27
In reply to Re: Clear goals in therapy » Penny, posted by fallsfall on October 1, 2003, at 14:44:31
> Hi Penny,
>
> Yup, you need to talk to her about all of this. You can ask her if there are things that she has noticed that you should work on (i.e. for me, it would be splitting - black and white thinking).I have a problem with all or nothing thinking: I said something the other day - I had purchased a little 1 gallon acrylic aquarium for my froggie - and I got it home and it was cracked. So I was telling her how I had to take it back to the store b/c when I got it home I discovered that "naturally" it was cracked. She stopped me and pointed out that I was referring to the aquarium being cracked as though it was evidence of the universe's plot against me - naturally the aquarium was cracked b/c naturally everything goes wrong for me, etc. She does pull things out like that when I'm just talking about stuff, but I guess I want more direction.
My biggest problem, though, I think, is negative self-talk. And she reminds me to work on my thought-changing exercises, but it seems at times like she's trying to not push me too much - but I'm not sure why...
>She will probably make you come up with some goals, like you did the last time - so you might want to have some in mind. Maybe a goal would be to figure out why you feel unstable, and what you can do about that.
I have a problem with goals - one of my main goals is what it has always been, which is to deal with my fear of men/issues with men, and we were starting to get into that, but, just like with my former therapist, I started sliding downhill so she said we'd put that on the back burner until I'm feeling better.
Perhaps the stability thing would be a good one - for me to work on why I feel so unstable and how I create more stability for myself.
P
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