Posted by HannahW on September 5, 2003, at 16:53:31
In reply to Re: Do I Have a Weird Therapist Relationship? » Rigby, posted by Dinah on September 5, 2003, at 16:29:59
The picking a fight thing doesn't seem too offensive if it's brought up in a conversational manner. Especially if you ARE picking a fight. However, in the last few days (since discovering this board), I've done a lot of reading about transference and counter-transference (which is the therapist's response to the patient). Counter-transference is about as common as tranferrence, so maybe her evident emotions behind the "picking a fight" comment are part of her own issues about having someone mad at her. If it is, she needs to deal with them outside of her session with you.
I'm not sure about the leg-shaving part. I guess it depends on what your relationship is like with her. Were her legs shaved? Looking through my own filters, I would wonder whether she feels somewhat threatened that a fellow lesbian (I'm making assumptions here, since you didn't dispute it and I haven't been around long enough to know whether it's true) would do something "unlesbian-like" which is different from how she does things.
I apologize if I'm way off base.
Hannah
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